Monday, June 22, 2009

Update (short version)

I have written a long version to this update which I will share with you when this is all over, unless it just seems unnecessary and very old news by then.

In short I will say that neither reason nor the law have been enough to promote compromise, and Jeff is taking very good care of me, and has removed the situation from my hands almost entirely.

Last week I was inspired to create a quote:

Hope and optimism are the things that keep you looking past the present darkness
It is the sort of saying Jeff's maternal grandmother Amalie would have appreciated. She wrote a book of uplifting daily passages that I hope to finish reading sometime. It seems to run in the family, for he is never short of encouragement. Negativity is anathema to his way of life, and he follows a strong internal code of honor which is rarely seen in this day and age. It really puts me in mind of the knights of old, that is how strongly he is motivated to do the Right Thing.

I cannot get over how his capacious mind never stops creating, thinking, and considering things from every angle. Because not only does he stand on that reservoir of peace I mentioned last time, he also seems to create time with sheer willpower. He never says, "I can't". He almost always manages it, usually succeeds at whatever he puts his mind to, and never makes excuses on the rare occasions he doesn't accomplish something.

He is a Visionary I think, and when he envisions the future, I can see it too.

And then he goes and says, "But you know everything, Livvy." (When I said "I don't know" the other day to a question about the Atlantic Ocean. We were at Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, and I was pretty knocked out by sea air at the time, but I think now I feel an answer formulating somewhere in the back of my brain...)

I am also thankful for my job and my supportive colleagues (those who need to know); the environment of sanity that it provides; an escape from the tension of my situation at home.

11 comments:

Carol said...

I'm glad to hear you have the support you deserve. Jeff sounds more wonderful the more I hear about him....you and he truly deserve each other :)

It took a long time to find each other, but because it took so long and there were bumps in the road you truly appreciate each other...

Anonymous said...

I agree with Carol. Reading about you two, really makes me smile inside out. I'm glad that you have a very very good friend, nearest when you need him.

Also, a very good quote! Copyright good, I say! :D

Flighty said...

Take care! xx

Ophelia Mourne said...

great post. Cant wait for the longer version :o)

neena maiya (guyana gyal) said...

Sounds like you're in good hands.

Christopher said...

I'm so happy that you are getting on with this whole mess and are going to be able to put it behind you. Psycho landlady...whats her phone number? I'll gladly prank her!

Rick Rockhill said...

things are moving in the right direction it would seem. Funny you mention work as solace. There are times when I do find work to be an escape from other things, and an opportunity to use my mind for specific skills that I enjoy employing. It is all about balance, isn't it?

Glo said...

Liv, I hope you are managing OK, and thank goodness you have Jeff to support and look out for you!

Christopher said...

Obviously you're doing fabulous...I'm glad you are in the arms of romance, you have quite a sparkle in your eyes when the two of you pose together!

The Moody Minstrel said...

I concur with everyone. The more I hear about Jeff, the more amazing he sounds. So...was it blind fate, or...?

Glo said...

Hope all is well, Liv! Check in when you can ~ thinking about you.